45 Cardinal Rules You Need To Live Life By

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1. Be the person you want to be, because you have to see that person every day.

2. Stay true to yourself, because no one respects a follower.

3. Treat your body like a temple, because unlike Long Island, you only have one.

4. Be nice to your parents, because they might not be around much longer.

5. Cherish love when you find it, because it’s rare.

6. Always take the high road, because the low road is never as fun.

7. Share your wealth, because it’s not fun to spend it alone.

8. Never place happiness on material possessions, because they usually break.

9. Remember those who helped you, because they haven’t forgotten.

10. Help those in need, because you never know when you’ll need them.

11. Stop thinking so much, because your thoughts are the root of most of your problems.

12. Only say nice things, because bad words make even worse enemies.

13. Follow your heart, because there’s no better guide.

14. Give thanks, because it’s way better than asking for forgiveness.

15. Never lie, because you’ll always get caught.

16. Tell your mom you love her, because that’s all she wants to hear.

17. Sing when you feel like singing, because voices are meant to be heard.

18. Dance like nobody’s watching, because that’s how our bodies should move.

19. Always say I love you, because there’s no equivalent substitute.

20. Never cry over spilled milk, because it’s just milk.

21. Forget those who did you wrong, because they definitely forgot you.

22. Don’t discredit anyone, because you might need a job some day.

23. Keep your enemies close, because there’s no better place to keep your eyes on them.

24. Go to bed early, because it’s easier to get up in the morning.

25. Find the silver lining, unless there’s a golden one.

26. Never judge on first impressions, because people always surprise you.

27. Expect the worst, because it’s always better to be surprised than disappointed.

28. Forgive those who hurt you, because you’re only hurting yourself at this point.

29. Never follow the crowd, because you’re better than that.

30. Don’t rely on appearances, because looks fade.

31. Ask questions, because they’re the precursor to answers.

32. Respect your elders, because they’re smarter than you.

33. Make your own path, because it’s the only way to where you want to go.

34. Eat your vegetables, because it will be easier to poop.

35. Remember the good times, because bad times will give you an ulcer.

36. Work hard, because nothing good comes from being lazy.

37. Dream big, because small dreams are never worth the chase.

38. Start today, because tomorrow may never come.

39. Think for yourself, because you’re smarter than everyone else.

40. Be a dreamer, because no one likes a realist.

41. Think before speaking, because it always helps your case.

42. Don’t take life too seriously, because when it’s over you’ll feel like a fool.

43. Be a good friend, because the world needs more.

44. Look people in the eye, because everywhere else will seem disrespectful.

45. Be happy, because that’s the whole point.

The 5 Love Languages | Which One Do You Have?

I am one of the people who are convinced that there are 5 basic love languages and 5 ways to express love emotionally. Each individual has a primary love language. Which one is applicable to you?

Okay, let’s start.

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They say action speaks louder than words. Well, not always. If you have this kind of love language, unsolicited compliment mean the world to you. Hearing the words like “I love you,” are important. Hearing the reason behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insult can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Verbal compliment or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love.

Encouraging words: “Encourage” means “to inspire courage”. All of us have areas in which we feel insecure. We lack courage, which often hinder us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to do. Perhaps, you or your spouse has untapped potential in one or more areas of life. That potential may be awaiting encouraging words from you or from him.

Kind words: If we’re to communicate love verbally, we must use kind words. That has to do with the way we speak. The statement “I love you”, when said with kindness and tenderness, can be a genuine expression of love.

Humble words: Love makes requests, not demands. In marriage we’re equal partners. If we’re to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other’s desires. If we make our needs known in the form of a request, we’re giving guidance, not ultimatums.

Note: If this is the love language of your partner, set a goal to give your partner a different compliment each day.

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In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you”, like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby –makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or failure to listen can be hurtful.

This means giving someone your undivided attention. I don’t mean sitting on the couch watching television together. What I mean is taking a walk, just the two of you, or going out to eat and looking at each other while talking. Time is a strong communicator of love. The love language of quality time has many dialects. One of the most common is that of quality conversation – two individuals sharing their thoughts and feelings. A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s desires. We must be willing to give advice, but only when it’s requested and never in a condescending manner.

Here are some practical listening tips:

  • Maintain eye contact when your partner is talking to you
  • Don’t do something else at the same time
  • Listen for feelings and confirm them.
  • Observe body language.
  • Refuse to interrupt.

Note: If this is the love language of your partner: Ask him/her for a list of five activities that he’d enjoy doing with you. Make plans to do one of them each month for the next five months.

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Don’t mistake this love language for materialism. The receiver of the gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous –so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Almost everything ever written on the subject of love indicates that at the heart of love is the spirit of giving, visible symbol of love, speaks the loudest. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, “Look, he is thinking of me”, or, “She remembered me.” A gift is a symbol of thought. Gift comes in all sizes, colors, and shapes. Some are expensive and others are free. To the individual whose primary love language is receiving gifts, the cost will matter little. There is also an intangible gift that can speak more loudly than something that can be held in one’s hand. Physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give. Your body becomes the symbol of love.

Note:  If this is your partner’s love language: Keep a “gift idea” notebook. Every time you hear your spouse say, “I really like that,” write it down. Select gifts you feel comfortable purchasing, making or finding, and don’t wait for a special occasion. Becoming a proficient gift giver is an easy language to learn.

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Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

People who speak this love language seek to please their partners by serving them; to express their love for them by doing things for them. Actions such as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing the dishes, sorting the bills, walking the dog or dealing with landlords are all acts of service. They require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. I’m not saying become a doormat to your partner and do these things out of guilt or resentment. No person should ever be a doormat. Do these things as a lover.

Note: If this is your partner’s love language: What one act of service has your spouse nagged you about consistently? Why not decide to see the nag as a tag? Your spouse is tagging this particular task as a really important thing to him or her.

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This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Holding hands, kissing, hugging and sex – all of these are lifelines for the person for whom physical touch is the primary love language. With it, they feel secure in their partner’s love. “Love touches” don’t take much time, but they do require a little thought, especially if this isn’t your primary love language or you didn’t grow up in a “touching” family. Sitting close to each other as you watch TV requires no additional time, but communicates your love loudly. Touching each other when you leave the house and when you return may involve only a brief kiss, but speaks volumes.

Note: If this is your partner’s love language: While eating together let your knee or foot drifts over and touches your partner.

Is this love at first sight?

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Love is a four letter word, but so hard to define. Well, it depends on the person. However, even if we want to, we cannot ask someone to forcefully love us. Love is a force of nature. We cannot command, demand, or take away love. How can we command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go? We just cannot control it, but there are times that we may have the limited ability to change the weather. But we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don’t fully understand. Just like love, we can go to courtship, or stage of seduction, but at the end of each day, we still don’t have the control.

Love is bigger than any individual. Yes, anyone can invite love, but they cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. An individual can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like a lightning, unpredictable and irrefutable and a person can also find themselves being in love with a person they don’t even like.

But the question, have you ever felt love or do you still believe in love? To be honest, I just broke up with my partner. We’ve ended our relationship for almost 3 weeks now. But that’s not the problem. The problem is that, there was a time when I was at work, when suddenly my workmate told me that her friend is looking for a date. Out of excitement, I said yes. And I asked him her number. Without hesitation, he gave me her number. After a few days we started calling and texting each other. Without even meeting her, at that moment I felt special. After days of continually texting, we have decided to see each other.

I could still remember it was a beautiful Monday morning when we decided to meet but unfortunately she brought along my officemate, her friend.  Too bad, we didn’t have much time being alone together. But, it’s okay. At least, I got the chance to see her in person. We guys decided to see each other at 10 in the morning in a fast food chain near our office. I was 20 minutes early because I’m so excited to see her. I was filled with emotions, I was happy, I was nervous, and things like that. When she and my officemate arrived at our meeting place, I finally saw her. Aw man, she’s so cute.

After that we decided to go to the park and have a picnic. So we went to a convenience store to buy the stuffs that we needed. At the park, after setting up the tent and everything, we started talking. She started talking about her life, career, and plans. I was inspired by her story. She is a very independent lady. By the way, she is a teacher in a private school near their place, a grade school teacher to be specific. She told me her plans with dignity and she told me that she wanted to be a principal someday. At this moment, she is taking her master’s degree and she’s paying for her tuition while she’s sending her brother in school. How amazing, right?

After having our picnic in the park, we decided to go to my officemate’s place. She decided to cook for us. Yes, she can cook. After eating, we went to the mall and we decided to take a lot of pictures. We started to be sweet. Good thing my officemate came along with us because all the time he was the one taking the pictures.

After that I initiate to drive them home. Her place is 2 hours away from my home. On our way, we started to take a lot of pictures again. We were so happy that time. There is no dull moment. We even dropped by to different places to take pictures. We were like couple that time. When we were half way to her place, it started to rain. I mean it was perfect, even the song on the radio was perfect. So I started to hold her hand, and she held mine back. She even told me that she can’t breathe. It was funny because we were hiding our hands from our friend. But then our friend caught us and told us “what’s happening?” then both of us laugh. After I dropped them to their place, we continued to text and call each other.

By the way, she told me she has a boyfriend and they’re not in good terms anymore. But after a few days, she told me that they’re going to see each other again. That night, I called her and she told me that he and her boyfriend talked and that they are now okay.

Well, I’m not usually like this, but I don’t know what’s happening to me. Is this love? Have I invited love and surrendered to it? Was I struck by a lightning? Is this love at first sight? Or it’s just an infatuation and a funny-corny story?